Do you have toxins in your life? I’m not talking about the bleach you use to clean your counters. I’m talking about the friend or family member that you talk to everyday who always see the glass as half-empty. Or always just trying to “keep it real?” I love it when people would say that to me, as if I already don’t know what is real in my life, but thank you for point it out again.
When you hang out with the toxic people who always want to bring you down, prove you wrong and complain about EVERYTHING, your attitude changes and will start to see things similar to them. Now I know if your spouse isn’t positive, you have no choice but to hang out with them, but I think that if you lead by example, eventually they will get sick of it and stop complaining or they will start to think more positively too. Remember, you’re only as good as the people you hang out with. So if the 5 people closest to you, that you with are negative people, you gotta start creating or finding better relationships.
Once you find that you are hanging out with people who have a more positive outlook and you are hanging out with them consistently, you will become more positive yourself. It took me a really long time to see that. I was a very negative person and I was mad at life. I felt my parents chose their religion over me and I was just upset at the world and I blamed everyone else for my actions, my thoughts and how I felt. After hitting a really low time, I knew something had to change. I look at the environment I was in and I was drinking all the time (just leaving college), I was going out 5-7 nights a week and I was so lonely and sad.
I was online one day and on Facebook there was an ad that talked about being positive. Ever since I researched that blog, I have started looking for positive people and trying to keep my life as positive as possible. Throughout our apartment I have positive affirmations and quotes to help me feel good (and to nudge Chad in the right direction ;P). I find that I do not have a lot of positive people who live super close to me that I hang out on a regular basis with, so I listen to people like Randy Gage, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jim Rohn and Dani Johnson to keep me in the right mindset.
Questions to ask about a person who is in your life:
- Do you feel uplifted when you leave from talking or chatting with them online?
- Do you want to spend more time with them because they make you feel good?
- Are you motivated to want to be better after you talk to them?
It is especially important with weight loss because if you’re around someone who is telling you that you won’t stick with it or that you can’t do it. You’ll eventually believe that person and your self-talk will tell yourself that you cant’ do it. Choose your friends and acquaintances very wisely because eventually your thoughts will only be as good as theirs.
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