“It is never too late to become what you might have been.” – GEORGE ELIOT
I believe that we all reach certain key points in our lives. We all reach roads that cross where our lives hit a certain threshold of “pain” that we are no longer willing to settle for. This threshold is different for everyone. I also believe that if you’re not happy with anything in your life, that is a call to action; a desire from deep within the “real” you that wants to experience more of life.
This is very challenging for us because we want to improve, but we don’t know where to start.. We end up doing the “logical” thing which is to work on the effects instead of the cause. Here is a simple thought process that will be a wake up call to you if you feel like you are spinning your wheels.
For my life to get better, I have to get better.
For things to change, I have to change.
This is my life and I am the creator of my destiny.
I can change any and everything in my life by simply changing myself.
This puts me in the driving seat of my life and makes my life my responsibility. Instead of worrying about what other people are doing, worry about how you’re reacting to them. Instead of worrying what is going to happen and being fearful, create your life. The world is going to stay the same, the only difference you will have is the change in yourself. I can stop looking for events, people and circumstances to blame. I only need to look inside. No matter how influential you are you cannot control the circumstances and events of your life.
There are only three things you have absolute and total control over:
- Your thoughts
- Your actions
- Your words
That is the same for me. My thoughts, my actions and my words are always under my conscious control. They are MY thoughts, they are MY actions and they are MY words AND they create MY world every minute of every day.
Some people might view it as a hassle (remember that is your thought process), but I think it is incredibly liberating. Whenever I want to have more, experience more or change anything, I need only look inwards and work on myself. Jim Rohn once said that the hardest work you will ever do is the work you do on yourself and he is so right. You could run around and work incredibly hard at trying to influence and change circumstances, but that will only make you tired and discourage your future efforts. It’s much easier to change yourself and your perception of yourself and your life. Nothing has any meaning except for the meaning you give it.
Changing external events have very little impact in your life on the long term. Small changes in you; in your perceptions and psychology might seem small at first, but because the change is in you it effects all of your thoughts, all of your actions and your words. This seemingly insignificant change, over time changes the whole direction and the end destination of your life. If a captain of a ship changes direction just one degree the end destination might be a different continent all together. Like the captain changing his course by one degree it might be unnoticeable over a short period of time, but over greater distances the small change becomes very significant.
Most people try and change the big things; they constantly try and change any and everything in their lives, but they then fail to maintain the change. Instead, making small consistent changes in yourself, in your own character you can create phenomenal results. All change starts and ends with you.
If you are going to invest the time and effort to improve your life, then invest it in changing yourself. Invest your time and effort in improving “you” and let go of the superficial urges to control events and circumstances. Your whole perception and experience of life comes from you and who you are. Change yourself, improve your character and just watch the world improve and change before your very eyes.
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