When I was 19, I told myself I was going to become a forensic scientist. I was going to party hard and work hard, turns out I just partied hard. I think I partied because I didn’t believe in myself, so instead of applying myself, I just created a scape goat so I could let myself fail. My parents really did a number on me and I don’t blame them, they did the best they knew how.

My mom was/is a control freak. I appreciate everything her and my dad did for me, because I never went without food or a roof over my head but I lacked learning how to make my own decisions. My mom wanted so much to be in control that she would pick out my clothes for me and if I asked to wear what I wanted to wear she would guilt trip me in to wearing an outfit she picked out. If I wanted to explore things, my parents would tell me I couldn’t do that or they wouldn’t support me.

My parents needed to be in control so much that they took me out of school and homeschooled me. I think I still am a little resentful of that. I never got the football games with my friends, I never got homecoming or prom, I never really got to do anything that a teenager should be able to do because of my parents control issues. Honestly, I know they thought in their head they were doing what was best for me, but looking back (hindsight is always 20/20) it affected me like I didn’t think it would. Anyway, I tell you this because sometimes I have a hard time believing in myself and I second guess myself because early on I was never able to make those decisions.

I am slowly starting to learn to choose my decisions, my actions and I love it. I blamed my parents for so long and sometimes I get back in to that trap, but now I am a grown ass woman, I make my own decisions and I choose how I react to others. Take 10 minutes (when you have time) to watch this video, you will not be sorry, I guarantee it.

I have watched this video by Will Smith 10 times and it has literally changed the way I think and what I want to do with my life. All of the stuff about my parents and how I blamed them is slowly getting washed down the drain and I am learning where I need to focus. I want to build up a direct sales network that brings residual income, I want to be healthier and happy for my kids. I believe in myself and I know that I will be/am successful in my life. I am slowly creating the life that was meant for me and my family. Like Will said in that video, there should be no plan B, there should only be a plan A because if there is a plan B that means I am planning to fail and failing is not an option.

Are you ready to start working on your plan A?