Self-help | ViSalus By Shay

Do You Stink? Nope, It’s Just Your……

ATTITUDE!

Yep, you got that right! Are you the type who is a “realist” or the glass half empty sort of person? Is it time for you to get your attitude in check and get over that nasty attitude of yours? Yeppers!

I had a friend who always had to point out everything that is wrong with an idea because she was a realist and wanted to make sure I was “thinking clearly” on it. Instead of brainstorming all the great ways we could do something, everything would get shot down because it wasn’t doable in her mind. Let me ask, does it make you feel good to make someone else feel bad or less excited about their dreams? Or maybe you just don’t realize you were doing it. Guess what? You do now!

Things that will help you be more positive (yes, you should really try to be more positive):

Avoid negative people. When you are around negative people, you start to think like them. If you remove or limit your contact with those people you will start to be more happy and more positive
You choose your reaction. So Sally Sue pissed you off, remember you choose to let her piss you off. You cannot control how they act, but you can control how you react. What is your choice today?
Stop comparing yourself to others. I would be so sad because we weren’t as far as other people were at our age or as well off and I realized that changed my attitude. Eventually I had to get okay with where I am at and realize that I needed to change myself in order to change my situation, so I’m currently a work in progress
Before you go to bed, write down what you’re grateful for. Gratitude will get you everywhere. If you truly write down and feel that grateful feeling, you will wake up happier because those happy thoughts would be the last thing you go to bed to.
Live in the now. The past is in the past and it truly does not define you. My mother told me when I decided to move out of their house and their religion that she wished she would have never had me. If I thought about that every day, I would be entirely worse off now from dwelling on it. Move on, change the definition of yourself. You deserve to live in the now. Enjoy your family, your friends, your kids, etc. Just be…

There are a ton of other things you can do to be more positive, but just remember why you were brought here. Remember your why to your life and think positively. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it. Change your reaction, restart your life and take control of the things you can control and leave the rest up to God, Source or whatever your belief if.

What Are You Afraid Of?

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When I joined ViSalus and up until March of this year, I was afraid to really work this business, truly afraid of the phones. I didn’t want to call people and “bug” them about a product I am so passionate about. I let my self-talk, my fear get the best of me. The reason I ask you this is because lately I have had a lot of people ask me about ViSalus and promoting the Body By Vi 90 Day Challenge and it has forced me outside of my box. I have really been excited to talk about it, but I really have that fear of rejection. What do you fear with your weight loss? What is your fear with your life? Why do we constantly live in fear?

This video is of 3 to 5 Star Ambassadors in Visalus, they make any where from 15k to over 100k a month… yes, a month. I know the video isn’t fantastic, but the point is to hear what you could hear so you could relate to those people. You don’t have to have thousands of dollars to do this, you don’t have to be super educated, you just need to have that faith and belief that you truly want to help other people and as you start conquering yourself and your fears, everything else will fall in to place.

I challenge you to take on one fear of yours. If you start small and work your way up you can. One woman in that video was having their 4th child and almost homeless but they decided not to give up. Her and her husband knew that they deserved better and that their kids deserved better. Is your husband always gone, is he working that much? Did you see the dad who said he worked 65 hours a week. Him and his wife decided to take control so they could be with their kids.

Stop living your life in fear. It’s really sad that we make bucket lists to do things before we die. Why? We are living, like Nick Sarnicola, co-founder of Visalus said, we should make “lived lists.” Start taking control, be better, do more… you know you can, its just a matter of if you’re going to make excuses or if you’re going to rock it…. I know I’m going to rock it, how about you?

Stop Beating Yourself Up – You Freaken Rock!

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I went for a walk with my family today and for some reason I was thinking about my weigh in on Monday. I was thinking, I cannot stand to see another standing still week, it would make me feel bad. I am working so hard to get where I need to and yet its not showing in the numbers. I thought, what could I do differently? And while I was trying to process those thoughts, my son wanted to show me the spider web on the bridge and I was lost back in my family and looking at things.

Fast forward to Monday, that dreaded weigh in day. I can’t even imagine what it was going to say. Hell I got my period so I figured I was going to gain weight. I get ready to step on and I think, does that number really matter? I actually laugh out loud. I feel helpless and sad that I am so obsessed with the scale, but my OCD makes me get on it anyway. I mean, I can’t not know what I weigh. Right? So to my surprise I dropped over 1lb. I am officially at 141.8, I was semi excited and then instantly sad because I wasn’t under the 140 mark again.

As I am doing my semi happy losing weight dance, I stop and yes, I truly stop in the middle of getting low. While I was so focused on the weight loss, I completely didn’t even realize for weeks I had been under my pre-pregnancy weight from my first child. With Cameron (my son and first born) I was 153 on the day I found out I was pregnant with him. I am back to my ending college weight and I didn’t even realize how big of an accomplishment that was because I was too focused on the things I was not accomplishing. I fit in to pants that I wore in college, I have energy again, I feel happy, I love going out and playing with my kids. Why am I not celebrating that? Why aren’t you celebrating things you are proud of?

That is a picture of me in pants from college. Those are Silver Jeans that one of my very best college friends, Alicia, let me borrow and I forgot to give them back. I might still have that muffin top, but hot damn, I haven’t worn them in 7 years. That is amazing progress!

What about you? Stop beating yourself up. You will hit each milestone as you continue your journey. YOU ROCK! Celebrate every milestone you hit. You and your body deserve that celebration.

Write down 3 things you’re proud of and do a happy dance! I’ll do a happy dance for you too!

You Mean I Have To Change?

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“It is never too late to become what you might have been.” – GEORGE ELIOT

I believe that we all reach certain key points in our lives. We all reach roads that cross where our lives hit a certain threshold of “pain” that we are no longer willing to settle for. This threshold is different for everyone. I also believe that if you’re not happy with anything in your life, that is a call to action; a desire from deep within the “real” you that wants to experience more of life.

This is very challenging for us because we want to improve, but we don’t know where to start.. We end up doing the “logical” thing which is to work on the effects instead of the cause. Here is a simple thought process that will be a wake up call to you if you feel like you are spinning your wheels.

For my life to get better, I have to get better.
For things to change, I have to change.
This is my life and I am the creator of my destiny.

I can change any and everything in my life by simply changing myself.

This puts me in the driving seat of my life and makes my life my responsibility. Instead of worrying about what other people are doing, worry about how you’re reacting to them. Instead of worrying what is going to happen and being fearful, create your life. The world is going to stay the same, the only difference you will have is the change in yourself. I can stop looking for events, people and circumstances to blame. I only need to look inside. No matter how influential you are you cannot control the circumstances and events of your life.

There are only three things you have absolute and total control over:

Your thoughts
Your actions
Your words

That is the same for me. My thoughts, my actions and my words are always under my conscious control. They are MY thoughts, they are MY actions and they are MY words AND they create MY world every minute of every day.

Some people might view it as a hassle (remember that is your thought process), but I think it is incredibly liberating. Whenever I want to have more, experience more or change anything, I need only look inwards and work on myself. Jim Rohn once said that the hardest work you will ever do is the work you do on yourself and he is so right. You could run around and work incredibly hard at trying to influence and change circumstances, but that will only make you tired and discourage your future efforts. It’s much easier to change yourself and your perception of yourself and your life. Nothing has any meaning except for the meaning you give it.

Changing external events have very little impact in your life on the long term. Small changes in you; in your perceptions and psychology might seem small at first, but because the change is in you it effects all of your thoughts, all of your actions and your words. This seemingly insignificant change, over time changes the whole direction and the end destination of your life. If a captain of a ship changes direction just one degree the end destination might be a different continent all together. Like the captain changing his course by one degree it might be unnoticeable over a short period of time, but over greater distances the small change becomes very significant.

Most people try and change the big things; they constantly try and change any and everything in their lives, but they then fail to maintain the change. Instead, making small consistent changes in yourself, in your own character you can create phenomenal results. All change starts and ends with you.

If you are going to invest the time and effort to improve your life, then invest it in changing yourself. Invest your time and effort in improving “you” and let go of the superficial urges to control events and circumstances. Your whole perception and experience of life comes from you and who you are. Change yourself, improve your character and just watch the world improve and change before your very eyes.

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Stop Hanging Out With People That Suck

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Do you have toxins in your life? I’m not talking about the bleach you use to clean your counters. I’m talking about the friend or family member that you talk to everyday who always see the glass as half-empty. Or always just trying to “keep it real?” I love it when people would say that to me, as if I already don’t know what is real in my life, but thank you for point it out again.

When you hang out with the toxic people who always want to bring you down, prove you wrong and complain about EVERYTHING, your attitude changes and will start to see things similar to them. Now I know if your spouse isn’t positive, you have no choice but to hang out with them, but I think that if you lead by example, eventually they will get sick of it and stop complaining or they will start to think more positively too. Remember, you’re only as good as the people you hang out with. So if the 5 people closest to you, that you with are negative people, you gotta start creating or finding better relationships.

Once you find that you are hanging out with people who have a more positive outlook and you are hanging out with them consistently, you will become more positive yourself. It took me a really long time to see that. I was a very negative person and I was mad at life. I felt my parents chose their religion over me and I was just upset at the world and I blamed everyone else for my actions, my thoughts and how I felt. After hitting a really low time, I knew something had to change. I look at the environment I was in and I was drinking all the time (just leaving college), I was going out 5-7 nights a week and I was so lonely and sad.

I was online one day and on Facebook there was an ad that talked about being positive. Ever since I researched that blog, I have started looking for positive people and trying to keep my life as positive as possible. Throughout our apartment I have positive affirmations and quotes to help me feel good (and to nudge Chad in the right direction ;P). I find that I do not have a lot of positive people who live super close to me that I hang out on a regular basis with, so I listen to people like Randy Gage, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jim Rohn and Dani Johnson to keep me in the right mindset.

Questions to ask about a person who is in your life:

Do you feel uplifted when you leave from talking or chatting with them online?
Do you want to spend more time with them because they make you feel good?
Are you motivated to want to be better after you talk to them?

If you answer yes to all of these questions then they are a great motivator and positive influence in your life. If you answer no to any of them, you should limit your association with them while you are in the beginning stages of creating a more positive life for you, your family or your kids.

It is especially important with weight loss because if you’re around someone who is telling you that you won’t stick with it or that you can’t do it. You’ll eventually believe that person and your self-talk will tell yourself that you cant’ do it. Choose your friends and acquaintances very wisely because eventually your thoughts will only be as good as theirs.

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